The importance of Family

                              
I haven't really thought this topic through so I'm kind of venting/winging it but I do feel very strongly about it and I've also read a lot about it through out my life so I hope you all enjoy it.

Some of my pet peeves are when men and women say they don't need a man or a woman. Or that they don't need love and how much my generation LOOOVES being single. I hate that crap. Like who wants to be ALONE??? I know i don't. I understand people don't want bad relationships but who does?!? It's like so you're telling me that you want to go home to an empty home for the rest of your life sleeping in a cold bed, have sex with multiple partners with no real connection with anyone for the rest of your life?? Really dude?? I sincerely believe if everyone thought more into this topic, their minds would change.

First of all, MEN AND WOMEN DO NEED EACH OTHER. Without one another we wouldn't be here! Now, your man/woman shouldn't be your entire life. I know what some people mean when they say that they don't need a man or woman to define them. Very understandable. But your wife/husband will be your partner in life so in a way, you define each other. Y'all are a team. And this person should be your BEST friend. You 2 should enjoy each others company at least 80% of the time. Because when the kids are grown and gone, it'll only be you two. This person should also be a tad more important to you than your own children as well. I know this sounds insane but like I said, when your children are grown and gone, if you're more attached to them than you are your spouse, you and your spouse might not survive without them around. And of course have GREAT communication and trust for one another. Yes, sex is important but not as important as communication and trust. But almost as important. Lol. Sex dies out when you like idk between the ages of 65 and 75 probably earlier than that. You surely won't have the drive for it at age 50 that you do now. So other things will become more important then, like enjoying each other. I know some of you are thinking, "I thought this was about family!". Lol. It is but family starts with the parents and if they don't have a decent relationship, that could set the children and possibly grandchildren etc etc up for some problems later in life.

Ok so when you and your spouse do decide to have children try to ALWAYS be there for your children. And ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS put your family first. If anything comes before your family, your family will most definitely suffer. I know this may sound easy but so many parents don't. Including mine. My parents NON parenting skills is actually the reason why I'm writing this blog. I'm so fed up with them. They are HORRIBLE parents and that's putting it lightly. Anyways, children NEED love. Unconditional love. A couple of facts I know off the top of my head are that learning starts in the womb and that everything a child sees, hears, learns etc in the first 5 years of his life will make for the person he'll be for his entire life. Crazy huh? But between the ages of 0 and 5 is when the child's brain is growing the most. So they literally are soaking up everything like a sponge. I seriously can't stress how important love is though to children and to everyone. If you're not affectionate, you need to learn to be with your children. That's important. They need hugs and kisses and to sit close to their parents and maybe even sleep in the same bed with their parents. Eating together is also important for young kids especially. It's important when they're older too to keep the family close and a time for the family to associate with one another but younger children need to learn how to eat right and they learn from watching Mommy and Daddy eat. That's also how the try new foods and figure out what they like.

Families should also do things together...often. Doesn't really matter what it is. Board games, movie night, go out to the movies or putt putt. Anything will work. You have to enjoy being around each other. I know all of this sounds like a job but it shouldn't feel like one. Families should love each other naturally and want to do things with each other. Everything that I am writing should come naturally to every family but it doesn't and it's increasing diminishing all the time as more parents put their jobs first, friends first, clubbing first etc. Whatever it may be. I just know I've been noticing how more people are putting other things before their family. Hence, the rise in more problems in the entire country. Children go out and look for love in all the wrong places which may be the min reason why my generation wants to remain single. Something to think about.

All in all, family is super important. And the way we treat our family is even more important. We all NEED love. Love is one of the only 3 things that lasts AFTER death. The other 2 are hope and faith. But love is pretty powerful and I know I want it in my life. No, we don't physically need it but, we do mentally. Our brain is very important so I think it's a good idea to give it what it needs. I do believe some people that were never married and alone die at a younger age than people that were happily married in love. I know you all have noticed how when an old couples spouse dies, the other dies soon after. That speaks for itself. If everyone did have a happy loving family and focussed their lives around that rather than other things, I know everyone would be MUCH happier and the world would be a better place! I know I'm dreaming. Lol.